Thread: Who knows the best way to reject something?

Originally Posted by Ritika

Take it positively. You have best quality of human being. and you manufacture to be kind and help others. People take advantage of others, that's where we live. Sometimes making enemies would be fun. if you are tired of doing it then make some good enemies to keep you going.

True Ritika, selfless giving is the best satisfying feeling you can feel ever. And you are right not everyone can be kind-heart person.When started to give without expectation then we won't affected by others wrong behaviors.

Originally Posted by Karikaalan

Don't think you both are the ones . There are many others including me.. but I have improved a lot in this one year. As I took some big responsibilities(big as millions) in my shoulder for this one year, I was just forced to say No . Everytime I used to explain my situation. Now I am little used to say no . I learnt another important thing that when I say yes and do something they will always come back to us another time. Still its a hard task to say NO

So we have lots of members in this group , And you are right when we say yes they will come back to us again and again. Nowadays I also learn to say no but yet need lots of improvements. Because after saying no I feel terrible I think with time I will get use to it.

Originally Posted by Assassin

It's general thing for the people I think. Because I have this kind of feel as well, but I never say "No" to anyone. Instead of saying "No" better you can say "Yes, But it takes too long do" or give them an alternative solution to do somehow in another way. Even though I feel guilty sometimes the solutions I suggested not work out well by unexpected factors. Simply God decides those I think.

Yes Assassin, it's not work all the time as we planned, Sometimes we have to do unexpected thinks.As you said it's all in the god hands. As he decide when and where we need to connect with someone for purpose.

Originally Posted by Shan

Always pain accompany with rejection.If we have faced it already ,then never wish to give such hard feelings to anyone.

In case if we are in a compelled situation to reject for someones betterment then we must look in to certain things before doing so.It is not a simple task.It needs a strong heart and polite ,kind words else it ends with miss understanding.The right way is to empathize their situation and react based on that.Saying directly to the person without hurting is welcomed but sometimes rejecting through friends or colleague reduces the awkwardness.

True Shan this is the exact case with me, I usually didn't get any support ,motivation,love, care or understanding for myself when I need them the most.So whenever someone expect support ,motivation,love, care or understanding from me I always give those things to them because i know the terrible feeling when you don't receive them.But still I am alone when I need support ,motivation,love, care or understanding. I think god listed me in the giving group not in the receiving group.

Originally Posted by Dhiya

I have the same defect. I don't expect their help to me again. Some peoples just talk to us nicely to get some help from us. If we did that, then they forgot that and started to insult u. I am really hate that minded people. Did anyone feel like me?

Dhiya, earlier I also get hurt when people forget my help and bad mouth me. But later I understand it's their character and it's nothing to do with me. their words and actions define them not me. So I stop worrying about those people and started to live my life the way I want to live